The air started to get crisp yet again, as I walked our daughter Olivia from her Taekwondo lesson. While being immersed into conversation with Livi, I had noticed one of the moms giving a pep talk to her child about what he was doing wrong and why he should improve. It kind of dawned on me, that we are all trying to motivate and teach. We live in the age where everybody is a motivator. We adore motivation and even more we love the feeling of being motivated. Countless hours are spent by people searching you tube channel for motivational videos. I personally attend a business development seminars every month, at least three conferences during a year and I can guarantee that I will do so even more frequently in the future. However, there is one little difference. I do not search for motivation, because I’m self motivated. I know why I’m doing what I’m doing. All I need, and where the difference lays is inspiration. Let me explain the fine line between the three elements.
Vast majority of people is going mindlessly day in and day out in the same rhythm of waking up, going to work, coming home, eat, watch TV, sleep and back to the beginning of the loop. The only distraction of this pattern is the weekend, where we load ourselves with alcoholic beverages, watch even more TV and tell ourselves that overall it is not that bad. Until Monday comes. We feel tired and it is a beginning of the week! How long can you stay in such a state? We cannot be surprised that mental health problems are growing public health concern. Mixed anxiety and depression being the most common mental health disorder in Britain. These are consequences, which we should’t ignore by only supplying antidepressants, pills and tablets. Medications tend to help instantaneously, but can be disastrous in a long run as they do not tackle the root of the problem. Therefore motivation, online coaches, mentors are being so high in demand as we are looking for ways to get out of the rat race and improve our well being. Having said that, I do not believe that motivation is purposeful, if it is portrayed onto people rather that inspiring them to develop self motivation within them in order to take action. It feels great to be fired up by someone, but the motivation tends to fizzle out in couple of days and if we don’t take action straight away we go back to square one. Don’t get me wrong, it is a completely different scenario in sports, where ignited motivation by a head coach, manager or players can be all the difference as it is instantaneous strive for result. On the other hand it doesn’t work in same measures long term as in improving ones life for example.
Most important key to taking control of our life is in self awareness. Realize who you are – what are your strengths and double, triple, quadruple into developing them to create and fuel your passion. Comprehend your weaknesses, but do not dwell into them, because most of the people around you are going to do that for you.
The moment we gain clarity about our personal nature and what we are passionate about, we become clear on our self motivation – our drive and desire. That’s exactly the ingredients, that is going to get us up early in the morning and do what needs to be done till late in the night. When we surround ourselves with people, who are successful by making a huge impact in sector or industry that we want to make our mark in, we can consume the information that they share and apply it. Practicality is the main difference between being motivated and being initiator. We have our desire and we are inspired to act by someone who is walking the walk, not only talking the talk. That’s the reason for me to advocate inspiration. When we add desire, altogether, it transcend any kind of motivation.
As Milton Berle, an American comedian and actor, whose career spanned for incredible 80 years once said, ‘If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.’ So don’t look for motivation. Be inspired instead. Be practical and act upon your ambitions. Let’s do what we need to do.
Cheers & Love